Do your remember the last time you won an argument? Chances are you can’t remember, because you didn’t win!
How do you win an argument?
First, an argument is won by not engaging in the argument itself. There are no winners when people choose to argue. The Scriptures teach us this principle: “A fool does not delight in understanding, but only in revealing in his own mind.” (Proverbs 18:2).
Second, an argument is won by walking away. The bigger man walks away from cutting remarks, sarcasm, and angry words. The Christian is to be that bigger man. Love not hate, anger or malice is the mark of a truly converted Christian. For so says Paul: “(Love)...does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered.” (1 Corinthians 13:5).
Finally, an argument is won by silence. There is a song from the 60s entitled Silence is Golden.
When people choose to argue, sometimes, most of the time, silence is golden!
Again, Solomon writes: “Do not answer a fool according to his folly, lest you also be like him.” (Proverbs 26:2).
If one will apply all these principles when it comes to arguing, chances are that the argument will be defused.
Michael Harmon is the minister of the Augusta Church of Christ. firstname.lastname@example.org