What we say and how we say things will have a lasting influence on people.
Our problem is that many lack good communication skills, which in turn affects relationships.
On the flip-side there are many who are good at destroying relationships, because it is easier to destroy a relationship rather than build lasting relationships.
So, what are the communication killers?
First is the complainer. By definition the complainer is someone who can never find the good in anything, or anyone. They just complain. Do you know such people? The complainer never finds happiness. He or she is always dwelling on the past. People will listen for awhile, but when there is no resolution in sight, the complainer will find himself all alone. Constant complaining destroys relationships!
Second is the person with low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem find it hard to build relationships, because they, themselves are not sure of who they are. Solomon addresses this in Proverbs; "For as he thinks within himself, so he is." (Proverbs 23:7).
We are who we think we are.
Finally, the selfish person is one who thinks only of him or herself. Selfishness is the leading cause of relationship failures. Why? Because many think only of themselves with little regard for others. The selfish person is unable to build or keep healthy relationships in their lives.
If we are to leave a lasting impact in this world, we must learn how to communicate with other people.
Again, listen to Solomon: "A wise man will hear and increase in learning, and a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel." (Proverbs 1:5).
Michael Harmon is the minister of the Augusta Church of Christ. firstname.lastname@example.org