We're doing it wrong.
We constantly dwell on our problems and the challenges that make life tough for us. We never stop long enough to realize how well off we really are.
In this Thanksgiving season many of us will finally take time to make a positive account for things in our life that we are fortunate to have.
Maybe it's time to establish a new emotional landmark to recognize these newly appreciated blessings.
Anyone close to me knows I love the old hymn "Come thou fount of every blessing." I have five different versions of it on my IPod.
The second verse of that 250-year-old song recalls a rarely mentioned Old Testament story that makes this point very well.
The Israelites had been defeated in battle several times by the Philistines and had even had the Ark of the Covenant stolen during one of those unsuccessful endeavors.
The battle ensued once more and God miraculously intervened and allowed the Israelites to defeat their more powerful foes and regain control of the Ark.
In recognition of God's intervention in their struggle, Samuel built a marker out of stone and called it Ebenezer - literally translated "stone of help" - because he the Lord had helped them thus far.
Much like the battles we face every day, the war with the Philistines and Amorites had not been complete and constant successes for the Israelites.
However, they didn't dwell on the previous defeats. They continued the fight. And when they were victorious, they showed their gratitude.
As the hymn says, "Here I raise my Ebenezer; Here by Thy great help I've come."
How many of us are overlooking the blessings in our lives because of a doctor's diagnosis, misfortune in our family or the announcement of an employer.
All of our battles don't end in victory.
But when they do, we need to establish those emotional landmarks to insure that we don't forget how much worse off we would be without the God's help.
Where is your Ebenezer? What battles has God helped you win? What are you thankful for?
Keep those things in mind as your continue your fight after losing a few battles along the way.
Be thankful for the things in our life that you wouldn't want to live without. It is easier at this time of year. But let Thanksgiving be the start of a new outlook - a reconfigured attitude toward the events in the past and what the future holds.